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No Help, please

I have finally got a lot of my blogs, posting together, without asking for help.  I hate asking for help.  I have always been independent and like to do things on my own.  It has been very hard for me to accept help.  I always feel I have to give something in return to make the scales balance again. I do not like to owe anybody.   Please believe, I have asked for help, but it has always been after I have exhausted all other avenues at least 3 times.  More importantly, I find when I do ask, I am always disappointed. I will usually get a yes, I can help you and the help never arrives.  I listen patiently to the excuse(I forgot, “did you need it now”, etc…) look them straight in the eye and say, forget, I will do it myself.  That is usually met with(ok, well good luck).  I have learned to cut out the middle man and just do it myself.

Now before you ask, I have helped many people when they ask.  I will go beyond and above the help that they ask for.  I will also be up front and tell you when I can’t help(this usually involves money). If can’t help, I will check up on that person to see how they made out and maybe I can offer my services now.  Now to be fair, I have turned down offers of help more times than I can count, but I still want you to offer.  Sometimes I want you to insist(I know sounds funny doesn’t it).  I will probably turn you down. If you know me, you know I would only ask because I am in dire straits.  That independent streak has cause me a lot of strife, but it is my makeup.

I know it doesn’t make sense.  Then again maybe it does.  I will try to explain.  No, I don’t need any help.


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