Like my outfit. Yes, I know. Looking good. Well it has been an interesting week. I met with one of my fellow walkers. Her name is Nicole. Sweet lady. Walking for health reasons. We walked together until she had to go. I sensed she wanted to talk. I slowed down and we had a lovely conversation. I was also attacked, I mean approached by another walker. Apparently the group of mall walkers have been walking for more than 20 years together and their practice is to walk with anyone that they see walking alone. While I appreciate the gesture, I am on a time crunch. The mall does not open until 7:00 am, we only have one car and my husband goes to therapy in the am. I have about 30 minutes to complete a mile and get the car back. Since I have been walking, I have seen groups, singles and couples. The singles usually walk by themselves. Not one person has approached them. They are walking just like me. I would like to say I was singled out because of my snazzy outfits or my stunning good looks. Maybe the fact that at 54, I am 20 years younger than all of the other walkers. Maybe it is because I have beautiful caramel colored skin. I speak to everyone that I pass, even the ones who don’t speak back.
This incident happened on a Thursday. The door I usually go in, was locked. The reason I know this is because two of the regulars informed as they were walking out. The suggested I seek another entrance, since they saw other walkers already inside( Does this sound like an episode of The Walking Dead. The Dead watchers know what I mean). I thanked them and we all started our daily walk once inside. Nicole only walks Mon – Thurs. My other partner did not show. We shall see on Monday. We shall see.
I was talking with to someone about various things when the subject turned to relationships. This person stated that they were lonely and alone. And it got me to thinking. Lonely/alone, in a sense they sound like the same thing. Oh by the way, they are both adjectives to describe a noun, which happens to be you. Here is what the dictionary has for lonely and alone.
Alone – separate, apart, or isolated from others, to the exclusion of all others or all else, solitarily; solely.
Lonely – affected with, characterized by, or causing a depressing feeling of being alone; lonesome, destitute of sympathetic or friendly companionship, intercourse, support, etc, lone; solitary; without company; companionless, remote from places of human habitation; desolate; unfrequented; bleak.
They both sound the same to me. But the dictionary has classified them as TWO distinct adjectives. What really got me thinking is “Can you have one word without the other?”. In some cases there are some small/large differences where you can be alone and not lonely and vice-a-versa. But look at the sentences for both of the words (alone: the exclusion of all others or all else/lonely: remote from places of human habitation; desolate). After I talked with my friend, and we hashed over the concept, with both of us not completely agreeing, I came up with this interpretation. I sit here alone typing out this trip through my mind. Am I lonely, yes? I miss companionship in my life. Whether it is the companionship of family, friends or love ones. Today I also feel lonely. Either way, it is just me, here by myself. I have come to the conclusion that they can exist separately and together and like all words, we have the power to determine how they are used in our life. So I will surround myself with people to ward off the loneliness so that I won’t feel so alone. See what I mean!